“Choose” … interesting word


In two posts, here and here, AK Haart “chooses” to discuss the English word “choose”.

Semantics? Well at first it may appear so but thinking it through, perhaps it’s the underpinning of all political coercion, punishment and human behaviour in general, from where we get “entitlement”, “justification”, “projection of guilt” and so on.

It’s the whole underpinning of leftist ideology and that of crims – they chose to do this, therefore I do this. Clyde Barrow came from a broken family, so he killed and robbed people. Bonny was forced to be with him in their mayhem.

Phil McGraw [yes, bear with this] had, as one of his life laws:

Lifelaw 2 – We create our own situation.

If we consider that we are no longer children, then we, ourselves, must answer for our own life – good or bad, successful or unsuccessful, happy or sad.

If we don’t like our job, we must answer for it. If our relationships are on the rocks, we must answer for them. It is never completely the other person’s fault. We, ourselves, may also have contributed to this situation.

Although we might accept this in theory, we nevertheless believe that in our particular situation it’s different, of course – we can prove that it is the other person’s fault. This is actually our problem.
Sometimes we then start gathering friends and colleagues together who will agree that we are innocent and that the other person is guilty. In the end, this is a waste of time and energy and helps maintain our self delusion.

However, if we can accept that we may possibly have erred, even a little and that only we, ourselves, are going to get us out of our own troubles, then we can start working on them.

Perhaps forces outside our control did cause our situation but if we allow that situation to continue or if we remain in it – then that’s our own fault.

At the same time, if we choose thoughts that create low self-esteem or which make us angry, this achieves no lasting result and leads us to become alienated and bitter.

This is behind the issue of obesity – an obesity “gene”? Purr-lease! It’s because that person is so conditioned to sloth and auto-sublimation of things which go against him/her that the calories taken in exceed the calories expended.

Simple biological law.

There may well be mental illness behind the choice not to exercise and run off some of those calories or to reorder the diet and no, it’s not easy but it still comes down, in the end, to “choice”.

It also hugely affects the concept of evil – the devil made me do it. Did the devil make you do it or your childhood traumas or an unhappy marriage or was it, in the end, your choice?

And of course – it is behind politics. You were to blame for the union going on strike and suspending travel for commuters. You were [actually, many were] to blame for voting in Labour and giving us the situation we’re now in.

There’s truth and non-truth in the application of the word “choose”.

An interesting word.

6 comments for ““Choose” … interesting word

  1. Man With a Polish Wife
    May 29, 2011 at 6:58 pm


    When I was a day release MBA student, and in a well paid job, I did some research into ‘Network Marketing’ aka pyramid selling. And, as part of the fun attended one of those conference things where there is a mesmeric speaker on stage, and thousands of hopefuls in the audience.

    This event was total NLP (yes, years earlier I had done a weekend course on this as well). You CHOOSE to do this, and you don’t CHOOSE to do that. Everything was about CHOOSE. It was weird in the extreme. Real, but exaggerated and everything was hyped: the audience lapped it up. I spent most of my time (as long as I could bear it before I walked out) watching the audience – and not the speaker.

    Your article frames an important debate – my limited experience of CHOOSE is something that I can’t forget – it was that powerful – and I was only there out of curiosity (nigh on 20 years ago!).

    Incidentally, one of the apparent joys of Network Marketing was that you would earn so much money that you wouldn’t have to work. And that was the theme of my last communication with my ‘handler’ and his manager. They had phoned me (conference calls were a novelty then) at home on a Saturday evening to ‘close’ me. It was then that I pointed out that I enjoyed my Saturday evenings as leisure time, and wouldn’t want a job like theirs that involved ‘harassing’ potential employees. That was the last I heard from them…

    • May 29, 2011 at 7:35 pm

      Yes, NLP has been alive and well for a long time, just adopted by Mulgan and the boys. Incidentally – Polish wife? Lucky man.

  2. May 29, 2011 at 7:54 pm

    Hi James, thanks for the link. For me, ‘choose’ is usually a poor word to use (choose?) in describing human behaviour. Did we choose our genes, parents or schools? If not, then at what age did we cast off these influences in order to choose for ourselves?

    Your point about evil is well made. What do we do about people we really need to class as evil such as Brady and Hindley? I think we try to learn from them, try to learn what turned into what they are, but we still lock them up and throw away the key.

    • May 29, 2011 at 11:09 pm

      I certainly didn’t choose the present government but would like to have a real choice of someone to represent me.

      Another word is “your”, as in “your video will be ready after the advert. It wasn’t my video – I just clicked in quickly to see something and then wanted to click out but your 30 second video converts this surfing into a “choice”.

  3. Sackerson
    May 29, 2011 at 7:58 pm

    Who decides what the range of choices will be?

    • May 29, 2011 at 11:12 pm

      Those close to the decision makers, e.g. CP.

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